Fostering your Strengths-based
Helps your treatment gains to generalize
(helps them work for you in more new situations)
Resiliency is a person's ability to weather a
storm - a person's mental and emotional strength and flexibility. Therapists first began using
the word "Resiliency" when it was recognized
that some people can experience large amounts of very hurtful trauma and come through it
OK, while others are seriously damaged by what seems to be a a single minor
episode of trauma.
In investigating why this happens, researchers and therapists began to discover
that some things
lead people to be resilient - to be strong in the face of bad times -
and other things lead people to be lacking in resiliency.
Resiliency can be fostered, even in adulthood. Whenever a trusted friend, relative or therapist believes that you can do it, helps you to recognize the strengths that you have demonstrated in your life, helps you remember the resources that you have, or the fact that you can effectively take action, this person is helping you to increase your resiliency. When a critical or unsafe environment causes you to feel demeaned and inadequate to deal with getting your needs met, then this environment is temporarily damaging your resiliency.
Fostering resiliency has less to do with specific treatment techniques and more to do with the attitudes and values of the people with whom you spend your time. If you spend your time with confident people who respect, value and like you, you will be increasing your resiliency over time.
In choosing a therapist, a friend, even an acquaintance, it is important to choose people with whom you feel respected, valued and liked, people who believe in your good qualities, so that the time you spend with them will foster your resiliency. Once you feel strong enough, then you can consciously spend time with negative people, and become someone who helps them to foster their resiliency.